Recently I was pondering over my life and thinking about who and what I have become. As I did this, I began to think more on the actual word ‘become’.
It doesn’t take an Einstein to know that the word ‘Become’ means ‘to happen, come about and arrive’ and is a compound of the two words ‘Be’ and ‘Come’.
I have often heard people say, “Twelve months ago I would not have imagined that I would be where I am today.” Have you ever thought or said that? I know there are times that I have. Why do we say those things? It is because we often look backwards over what has happened in our lives and the only forward planning we have can be quoted with the phrase “Que Sera Sera - Whatever will be, will be”, but there is no hope or direction for us when that is our mindset.
I realised how often we look in a backwards direction over our lives, but instead we need to look forward. When you think about it, who I choose to ‘be’ today will determine who I will ‘come’ to be tomorrow. If I don’t like who I have ‘come to be’ (or be-come) then I need to change who I am being today, so that the change will result in me having a new out-come. I can look at my past and cry with tears of regret over it, or I can remember the ‘glory days’ where things have gone better then planned, but neither viewing can change our future. Our remembering should be used to learn from, and plan for an even better future.
Who have you be-come? Who would you like to be-come? The power to change that begins with you. So does the choice.
Just Run the Race
A determination to change is only part one. Doing it is part two. It is like the athlete who wants to run the one hundred meter hurdles. He knows that they are ahead, and that he needs to be prepared for them, but at the end of the day, the only way he can complete the race is to actually run it. Once he begins running, he know that the hurdles will come up, and the finish line will continue to come closer with each step, but unless he focuses on the finish line, and clears every hurdle he comes to, he will not finish the race. The hurdles are intended to be cleared. The finish line is intended to be crossed. The rules of the race are yours to set, but you will never win unless you start running, clear the hurdles and cross the finish line.
Because it is your race, and you are the only competitor all you need to do is compete and you will win, and gain the prize.
The Three P’s
1. Persistence - maintain your determination to achieve your goals consistently.
2. Perseverance - respond positively to setbacks you will surely experience in the change process.
3. Patience – remind yourself that change takes time and that if you maintain your commitment, you will see the changes we want come to reality.
So, whether it is a New Years Resolution, or desire to change on just any day during the year, you can see a positive and happy ending. The key is to remind yourself that change is far from easy and will take some work. Just keep focused on your goals, see the finish line, and run till you cross it.